It was my favorite day of the work week… The night of the week I get to stop and buy dinner. The night I don’t have to cook. I walked into Jimmy John’s to order sandwiches. “Hi welcome to do a Jimmy John’s. What can we get you?”
The girls were fantastic. Olivia crossed off the list and Francine pick things off the shelf. No fighting, no whining… a small mommy victory, my own personal moment. Walking to the checkout line at the grocery store the cashier warmly says hello to Olivia and Francine. Olivia shies away at first. “You’re with me sweetie. It’s okay to say hi,” I say to Olivia.
I was busy answering e-mails and getting things done on the computer. I was a machine and my To Do list was quickly dwindling… yeah me! A colleague at work walked into my room. She wanted to run some ideas by me and share an exciting new program she was using. I looked up to say Hi and welcome her in. I was on a roll… I was getting things done! I kept working as she started talking. I nodded, uh-huh uh-huh and I briefly looked up.
Then it all made sense to me.
Olivia shied away. A mom look and a friendly mom nudge was all it took. She instantly stood taller, confidently looked the woman in the eyes and said, “Hi”. A smile quickly came to her face and a hands over her head, 1 foot, spinning ballet twirl showed me how happy she was with herself.
My collegue continues to share. My head was still in the computer, but I was listening. I stopped. I looked up, closed the computer and looked her straight in the eyes. A smile came over her face. Her shoulders went back a little. My attention was fully hers.
Eye contact can mean so many different things. Some cultures value it, while some are intimidated or even offended by it. Families put varying levels of importance on it. To me, this prompt, this challenge, this mission reminded me…My eyes.
*Next Weeks Theme: “I knew I had to…” or your choice